What Women Want

In honour of Father’s Day, here is a comprehensive list for single Dads out there on the path to love. The roadmap will be unique for you, however these insights should translate to most. 

First, listen. When women begin to share how they’re feeling, about their day, or general chatter, they’re moving their energy in their body. They require nothing other than you to be present and hold the space to hear them. You may find the more you stay silent, the more expansive their vocabulary, facial expressions and emotionality will range. This is normal. This is not something that needs fixing. This is the beauty of the feminine fluidity. When they are complete (you will see their big exhale), give them a hug and witness them soften into your arms. 

Second, ask what she needs. Yes, she can do all the things herself, as I imagine you’ll be looking for that interdependent mama, however she doesn’t always want to. In moments when you don’t know how to help or what to say, ask what she needs and you will find she will always have an answer. The caveat? Don’t ask her what she needs if you don’t intend to support her and follow-through. Period. 

Third, cultivate connection. This will look different to every woman, so it’s important to identify in the early stages of dating how she feels connected to you. Intimacy is expressed emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually. So the more time you get to understand what makes her feel most connected, the better your chances of feeling her heart open, body relax, and smile beam. 

Just remember, you’re going to fuck up. And so will we. The overarching opportunity here to do things “different this time”, is to do things different this time. Allow yourself to be seen in your vulnerabilities (we love seeing your own range of emotions) and share your thoughts, tell her you like her and ask her for the next date. When a woman feels desired, connected and appreciated, she will not only become your partner, she will become that happily ever after.

 

Lyndsay Campbell is a co-parenting mother of two boys, a Life Transformation Coach and
Reiki Master.