Trust your Vibes

One of the most difficult decisions you may make in your lifetime is whether to get a divorce. Trying to discern if there is anything else to do to save your marriage, or if the cycle is complete, is tough af and you are the only person that knows the answer. 

Here are some tidbits to help the decision making process: 

(1) Take 30 Days: It may be years of back and forth scenarios before you finally make the decision to separate. You will literally repeat and replay the same thoughts in your head of ‘why to stay’ and ‘why to go’ over and again, feeling like a mental tennis match on some days. This may indicate that you aren’t ready yet, don’t have enough data, or there is something left to learn. An intentional practice is to take 30 days to put the decision to rest in your mind. Give yourself a “break” by comforting yourself with knowing you aren’t clear yet, so no decisions need to be made. Creating that pause gives space for new information, data and thoughts to arise. 

(2) Ask Why: Take time in silence to ask yourself “why” you aren’t moving forward. Is the answer rooted in fear? (e.g.: what will happen to the kids, I can’t afford it, etc.) This isn’t your soul speaking to you (the part of you that knows the way). When you identify the fear, work on uprooting it and neutralizing as best as possible with a simple “I will trust my process and have faith it’s all working out for me.” 

(3) Trust your Vibes: Close your eyes and picture a path with a fork in the road. As you look to the left, see your partner standing there. As you look to the right see yourself alone. Which direction does your body feel more pulled towards in that moment? Your body knows the way. 

Divorce is a thing for sure. Whether you stay or go, you’ll need to anchor into strength as you trust and lead yourself with love. Remember, you can do hard things, and when you’re ready, you’ll know.

 

Lyndsay Campbell is a co-parenting mother of two boys, a Life Transformation Coach and
Reiki Master.