Signs of School Stress

The change in routine at back to school time can be a struggle for our little ones. Identifying the following signs is half the battle to support our kids so that transitions are easier for them and the whole family.

Physical signs of school stress include:

• stomach aches
• headaches
• wetting the bed  
• new fatigue

Psychological signs of school stress include:

• irritability
• crying
• clinginess
• sadness
• anxiety

Behavioral signs of school stress include:

• avoiding school
• withdrawn from friends
• trouble sleeping
• change in appetite
• change in hygiene (less showering, wearing dirty clothes)

Once you have identified where your child is struggling, consider trying the following to help them better ease into transition.

• Meet your children’s teacher early in the school year to discuss how your child is struggling to determine the root cause (bullying, separation anxiety, academic stress) and then problem solve together. 
• Routinely check in with your child’s feelings. Listen to their feelings, which usually include fear (fear of failure, bullying, being alone) without trying to fix it immediately. Returning to school might not evoke anxiety for you but it might feel overwhelming for your little one. When we actively listen to our children’s concerns, we can identify the root cause and address it. Keep your voice soft and low, and your body relaxed so that you can co-regulate your child’s nervous system. When you’re calm, they can become calm.
• Encourage extracurricular activities that interest your child. This will help them meet people and gain confidence. 
• Set up playdates early in the school year with classmates. This will help your child feel more comfortable in their social group and allow them to get used to the amount of interactions they will be encountering. 
• Educate yourself about the resources (mental and physical) available to your child such as academic programs (tutors, reading programs teacher assistants), school counselors and play therapists.

 

Each of us reacts differently with transitions. Identifying and naming the change in your child as they process big feelings allows you to figure out the cause and problem solve with your child, your family and community supports. 

 

 

Becky Morrison is a Nurse Practitioner based out of Calgary who has specialized in mental health for over a decade. She is finally, after years of infertility, a mother of two busy little boys, and doting fur mom of her gentle giant, Stella. She is, and always will be, a strong advocate for mental wellness at all ages.