From Online to First Date

Online dating is a primary way singles mingle. The path from meeting online to in-person can range from a turnaround within days or weeks. Either way, when that first date is solidified, here’s what you may experience: 

Buildup – This is the step whereby you are full of hopefulness and anticipation. You may find yourself daydreaming about locking eyes, and just “knowing” this person is the love of your life. There is nothing the matter with a blissed out state of “what ifs”, however, be mindful with the possibility this person could potentially be a stepping stone to what’s next. Take the pressure off that this will be “the one” and rather focus your mental narrative to “be open to every and all possibility for your highest good”. 

Encounter – There’s nothing like that final moment you fix your makeup and adjust your cleavage before you make your way to the destination point. The nerves can feel overwhelming. When you lock eyes in real time, one of two things will happen; your heart will flip, or it will flop. Either way, that date will be the clarifying data you needed to determine if you desire to spend more time with this person. And, to be clear, that’s what dating is all about. 

Self-Reflection – Regardless if your first date ended in a kiss or smoke coming off your shoes as you ran in the opposite direction, the stage of self-reflection will commence. Take the opportunity to sink into how that person made you feel. Did it feel easy, do you like their values, are they kind, did they make you laugh? Dig a little deeper after each date and ask yourself what you learned about them and you. From there, give yourself space to anchor into your heart before you commit to that second rendezvous. 

Whether that date leads to another or right back to online swiping, it was meant to happen to guide you to what’s next. Take the pressure off yourself and trust that this chapter of your dating experience is always guiding you to true love.

 

Lyndsay Campbell is a co-parenting mother of two boys, a Life Transformation Coach and
Reiki Master.