Self-Care is Not Selfish

Here’s where I’m at in my life this Mother’s Day. My son is unbelievably grown and proudly heading off to university soon. I was starting to have all the freedom in the world, when I decided to get a puppy. My dog, Coco, turns one year old this month, and I’m experiencing a toddler all over again.

Happy Mother’s Day to everyone out there who plays a mothering role. You have one of the toughest, most-rewarding, tear-shedding, smile-inducing jobs in this world! One of my favourite topics at Mother’s Day (and every day of the year) is self-care. You may find it selfish to put yourself first. Why spend time on my body, mind and well-being when I have children and other family members and friends for which to care?

Well, I’m here to remind you of the reason that usually gets mamas listening. Just as flight attendants explain when they’re talking about oxygen masks, you can’t take care of another person if you haven’t first taken care of yourself! If you’re in a negative cycle of putting others before yourself, it’s time to break it. Basic self-care is made up of the following components:

1. Nutrition – A healthy, balanced diet is crucial for your body and brain. I know it’s easier said than done, but prepare simple healthy meals, eat slowly and with intention. 
2. Sleep – This one is incredibly difficult for new parents, but get help if you need it. A lack of sleep decreases brain function and leads to health concerns like heart disease, obesity, depression and diabetes.
3. Movement – Focus on just 10 minutes of physical activity a day to start. Exercise is also a great stress buster.
4. Stress Reduction – Engage in rest and relaxation habits like meditation, yoga or focused deep breathing.
5. Joy – Spend some time with yourself and find something that you love to do. This could be gardening, bowling, singing to the radio or reading The Mom & Caregiver. Don’t let your mind wander to worries!
6. Health Care – Be proactive and preventative. Do NOT skip appointments. Advocate for yourself.

Self-care is never selfish, ladies! So let’s start taking care of ourselves – the benefits will be well worth it.

 

 

Sabina Manji, a lifelong Londoner, is an irrepressible entrepreneur, mother of a wonderful son, and also a committed volunteer.