The Online Dating Buzz
This last month I decided I was finally ready to get my stinger prepped as I entered into an online dating beehive for singles, called Bumble. I downloaded the app and spent five hours sifting through photos of myself that I thought showed all aspects of my being. I filled out what I was looking for and then started buzzing around with the male bees in the hive.
This Queen Bee lasted two weeks before the app was deleted off my phone, as I realized it takes a whole lot of energy to maintain the filtration process of inspection, selection and connection. Energy, I personally realized, I didn’t have quite yet.
However during that trial period of trying to open my heart to pollination, I learned a couple new things I wanted to share with each of you:
- Boundaries – Whether in an online platform, meeting someone through a friend or encountering a meet cute as you both reach for the same jar of honey, have your standards of what you need now clearly defined and don’t stray. You’ve come this far on your path of aligning to healthy love – don’t settle out of convenience or feelings of scarcity that you’ll never match up again.
- Self-Trust – It’s hard for your mind to conceptualize when you’re single and desire love HOW you’re going to meet that next buzz-worthy babe. This can cause insecurity and doubt that you never will that can ripple into resentment, which ultimately isn’t the vibe we want the universe to line us up with, right? Practice the essence of self-love within you first, release your tight grip of control and be open to receive miracles. When you detach from the ‘how’ the inspiration will always show up in your ‘now.’
When you’re ready to date again after separation or divorce, know this: the less time you worry about when the next sexy honeybee will show up, the more fun, flirtation and joy you will have on the journey to that new love nectar, which will arrive in sweet, divine time, always.
Lyndsay Campbell is a co-parenting mother of two boys, a Life Transformation Coach and
Reiki Master.
