When You Forgive, You Heal

The more I forgive, the greater perspective, grace and peace of mind I have. Forgiveness, however, can be a painful process – one that requires us to feel and heal. I believe it is worth the discomfort. To forgive is an active choice, despite our feelings. Forgiveness is a powerful tool that frees the person who was hurt. Too much focus is placed on the one who caused the pain.

 Some people don’t forgive, claiming it’s empowering to hold a grudge which provides a sense of control. (Nope. You are now trapped in the prison of resentment.) Others don’t forgive because “they” haven’t acknowledged their wrongdoing. (If you’re waiting for remorse, it may be a while, or truthfully, never. Hello, bitterness.) Some don’t forgive because maybe “it” may happen again. (True! But projecting only brings more suffering.) 

 Choosing to forgive means absorbing the pain and then healing the hurt. It releases us from holding others hostage and in return, holding ourselves hostage. It’s a proactive choice for our well-being. That said, it doesn’t always mean reconciliation is possible or healthy. Boundaries and forgiveness co-exist harmoniously.

 While the decision to forgive is ours, supernatural assistance is often necessary to fully let go of deep-seated pain and trauma.

I pray if you are struggling, you’ll break free from the unforgiveness that is holding you back. Please give us faith to forgive, and release your power to heal our hearts. Guide us through the healing process to improved health and wellness. Amen. 

 

 

Marcy Demelo is an Entrepreneur, Career Coach and Educator, teaching you how to reinvent yourself to live out your passion. Find her on Instagram at waymaker_inc and at www.waymakerinc.ca.