Let’s Abandon “Sticks and Stones”

I’m a Gen Xer who was bullied and heard the saying “sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you” a lot growing up. However, 35 years later, I’m still healing from those hateful words.

Words, or the absence of them, possess immense power. They shape our perceptions of ourselves and influence others. Unlike bones that mend with time, the weight of words lingers in the shadows, slowly eroding your psyche. Hurtful remarks chip away at our self-esteem, leaving scars that snowball into health issues like:

• anxiety 
• depression 
• weight gain 
• skin disorders 
• digestive issues
• self-destructive behavior

This is where I found myself last year. After a lifetime of negative self-talk, I had broken the barrier, and connected it to my obesity and self-limiting behaviours. While broken bones heal within months, emotional wounds inflicted by words may persist a lifetime if never addressed authentically. The power of words lies in their ability to penetrate deep into our core. Negative comments about our appearance, abilities or character can erode our self-confidence.

I fear for our children in this world of connectivity. Hurtful words can be amplified on social media, causing widespread damage to an individual’s reputation and mental well-being. An error in judgement, essential in the growth process, can be broadcasted and scrutinized without facts or compassion. I certainly don’t think I would be where I am today if I grew up with this added complexity. I was far from perfect.

I’ve spent the last year working on me – my body, my career, my mental health and my mindset. It has been a challenging journey with an army of therapists, self-reflection and support from friends. Every time I peel back another layer of the onion, my life begins to change significantly and quickly.

Teaching our kids the potential harm that words can inflict will help foster a culture of empathy and kindness. By choosing our words carefully, we can contribute to a society that uplifts and supports one another. Realizing the weight our words carry will encourage us to use them to inspire, comfort and empower.

 

Janet Smith is a proud mom of one daughter and a marketing professional who is grateful for her rural roots in the London area. Follow Janet’s funny and honest journey at IG & TT | @re.marketable.janet or FB | @janetsiddallsmith